In Sussex, a community group named Dad La Soul is making strides in addressing men’s mental health, especially among fathers. Founded by Dan Flanagan, who was inspired by his own experiences as a single parent, the group aims to create a supportive environment where fathers can openly share their feelings and struggles.
Flanagan emphasizes the urgency of this initiative, noting that in the UK, 84 men take their lives each week. He believes that discussions around fatherhood and mental health have never been more critical. During a recent TED Talk, he described loneliness and lack of support as “silent killers” that many fathers face. This sentiment is echoed by the growing concern over the influence of misogynistic online figures, which has been highlighted in response to the Netflix series “Adolescence.”
Dad La Soul began eight years ago as a small gathering, initially attracting just 14 fathers and their children for activities like beat-boxing and soft play. Today, the group has expanded to over 4,000 members, illustrating the demand for such a community. Flanagan shared stories of various fathers, including those who feel guilty for missing bedtime due to work commitments, fathers battling outdated court systems to maintain contact with their children, and even gay fathers facing societal stigma.
The group recognizes that many fathers appear to have their lives together, but in reality, they struggle with feelings of inadequacy and uncertainty. To combat this isolation, Dad La Soul organizes events and campaigns to foster social connections among fathers, helping them build supportive networks. Their efforts have garnered financial support from the National Lottery and Comic Relief, allowing them to expand their initiatives.
Volunteer Paul Tyldesley highlights the importance of connecting young men with positive influences, noting that many feel lost in today’s society. He points out that figures like Andrew Tate exploit this vulnerability, stepping in to offer misguided guidance. Flanagan and Tyldesley agree that young men represent a disadvantaged group that needs attention and support.
Overall, Dad La Soul is working to change the narrative around masculinity and fatherhood, creating a space where men can openly discuss their mental health challenges and seek help without stigma. The group’s growth and community impact signify a shift towards greater awareness and acceptance of men’s mental health issues in society.
